how to take fast decisions

दुनिया बहुत जटिल है और हमें चलायमान रहने के लिए अपने अनुभवों पर निर्भर रहना पड़ता है.

जब हम छोटे होते हैं तो एक अनुभवजन्य नियम (heuristic) हमारे हमेशा काम आता है और वह यह है कि “अपने माता-पिता की बात मानो”. बचपन में हम ऐसा नहीं करते हैं तो नुकसान हमारा ही होता है. वयस्क हो जाने पर हम इस बात को मानने लगते हैं कि “किसी विशेषज्ञ की सलाह लो और उसके बताये अनुसार ही काम करो”, हांलांकि इस सिद्धांत का पालन करना दिन-बदिन मुश्किल होता जा रहा है.

एक दिन मैंने अपने निजी अनुभवजन्य नियम को दोहराया जिसे मैं लंबे समय से मानता आया हूँ. इसने मुझे अवसर की पहचान करना, अपने मेलबौक्स के साथ निपटना, और मेरी उम्मीद से भी ज्यादा गति से आगे बढ़ने में मदद की है.

अब मैं आपको बता ही दूं कि वह सिद्धांत क्या है:

निर्णय जल्दी लो और परिणाम के साथ जियो.

जब सामने बहुत कुछ करने के लिए होता है तो बहुत से लोग जड़वत हो जाते हैं. वे बहक जाते हैं और अनिर्णय से पंगु हो जाते हैं. उनके मन में यह चिंता बनी रहती है कि वे सही हैं या गलत हैं.

सच कहूं तो आपके निर्णय इतने परिणामी नहीं होते जितना आप समझते हैं.

यही कारण है कि यह सिद्धांत बेहतरीन है. यदि आप तनाव के क्षणों में इसका उपयोग करेंगे तो पायेंगे कि आप कठिन समस्याओं को पीछे छोड़कर बड़ी फुर्ती से आगे बढ़ जाते हैं. यदि आप स्मार्ट हैं तो यह बहुत अच्छे से काम करेगा क्योंकि यह आपके सोच में उलझे हुए मष्तिष्क को पलट देता है और लिए गए निर्णयों के साथ जीने में आपकी मदद करता है.

एक अन्य नियम जो इसके बरअक्स काम करता है वह ये है:

यदि अनिश्चित हो तो “हाँ” कह दो.

‘त्वरित निर्णय’ के नियम के समान ही यह नियम भी शानदार है क्योंकि यह अवसर चूके बिना आपको त्वरित गलतियाँ करने में मदद करता है.

फ़र्ज़ करें कि आपको किसी बात के लिए “नहीं” कहना चाहिए था पर आपने “हाँ” कह दिया और बात बिगड़ गयी – तो इसमें चिंता की बात नहीं है क्योंकि आप इस गलती से सीख ले चुके हैं और अगली बार आप अनिश्चित नहीं रहेंगे और बेझिझक “नहीं” कहेंगे.

ये दोनों नियम निर्णय लेते समय रोज़मर्रा के जीवन में बहुत काम आते हैं. ये नियम परिपूर्ण नहीं हैं पर इनसे जीवन और कामकाज में बहुत अच्छा सुधार आता है.

जब आप पहली बार कुछ करते हैं पर उसमें असफल रहते हैं तो आपको उससे बहुत कुछ सीखने को मिलता है. यदि आप इसे सकारात्मक रूप से ग्रहण करते हैं तो आप मानसिक और भावनात्मक धरातल पर और मजबूती से खड़े होते हैं.

जब कोई आपसे यह कह देता है कि ‘असफलता की परवाह नहीं करो’ तो आप अधिक उत्साह और मनोयोग से अपना काम बखूबी करते हैं. जब कभी आप कोई बिलकुल अलग चीज़ करते हैं तो सारे ‘सामान्य व्यक्ति’ आपको सनकी समझते हैं. ऐसे में मैं यही कहूँगा कि आप नए विचारों को मन में लायें और नए काम हाथ में लेते रहें. यदि आप यह भांप लें कि असफलता तय है तो जल्दी असफल होकर अपनी भूल सुधार लें और आगे बढ़ जाएँ. लोग असफलता से इतना भय खाते हैं कि निर्णय लेना ही नहीं चाहते.

This is a guest post of Julien Smith of inoveryourhead.net. Julien is a New York Times bestselling author, consultant, and speaker who has been involved in online communities for over 15 years.

मन के छिद्र बंद करो

रात्रि बीत गई है और खेतों में सुबह का सूरज फैल रहा है. एक छोटा सा नाला अभी-अभी पार हुआ है. गाड़ी की आवाज सुन चांदनी के फूलों से सफेद बगुलों की एक पंक्ति सूरज की ओर उड़ गई है.

फिर कुछ हुआ है और गाड़ी रुक गई है. इस निर्जन में उसका रुकना भला लगा है. मेरे अपरिचित सहयात्री भी उठ आए हैं. रात्रि किसी स्टेशन पर उनका आना हुआ था. शायद मुझे संन्यासी समझ कर प्रणाम किया है. कुछ पूछने की उत्सुकता उनकी आंखों में है. आखिर वे बोल रहे हैं, ”अगर कोई बाधा आपको न हो तो मैं एक बात पूछना चाहता हूं. मैं प्रभु में उत्सुक हूं और उसे पाने का बहुत प्रयास किया है, पर कुछ परिणाम नहीं निकला. क्या प्रभु मुझ पर कृपालु नहीं है?”

मैंने कहा, ”कल मैं एक बगीचे में गया था. कुछ साथी साथ थे. एक को प्यास लगी थी. उसने बाल्टी कुएं में डाली. कुआं कुछ गहरा था. बाल्टी खींचने में श्रम पड़ा पर बाल्टी जब लौटी तो खाली थी. सब हंसने लगे.”

”मुझे लगा, यह बाल्टी तो मनुष्य के मन जैसी है. उसमें छेद ही छेद थे. बाल्टी नाममात्र की थी, बस छेद ही छेद थे. पानी भरा था, पर सब बह गया. ऐसे ही मन भी छेद ही छेद है. इस छेद वाले मन को कितना ही प्रभु की ओर फेंकों, वह खाली ही वापस लौट आता है.

”मित्र पहले बाल्टी ठीक कर लें फिर पानी खींच लेना एकदम आसान है. हां, छेद वाली बाल्टी से तपश्चर्या तो खूब होगी, पर तृप्ति नहीं हो सकती है.”

”और स्मरण रहे कि प्रभु न कृपालु हैं, न अकृपालु. बस आपकी बाल्टी भर ठीक होनी चाहिए. कुआं तो हमेशा पानी देने को राजी होता है. उसकी ओर से कभी कोई इनकार नहीं है.”

I have copied this article from the site

http://hindizen.com/2011/08/05/osho-story/

spiritual exercises

Exercise 1: The Witness
Set aside 5 minutes at first (keep increasing by 2-3 minutes every other day until you reach 20 minutes) and close your eyes. Turn your attention inward and, from being a 'thinking' human being, start viewing your thoughts as an independent observer in a detached remote manner, as if your thoughts were 'things' or a spectacle to watch. Watch the train of your thoughts and images, the succession of often unrelated thoughts that appear to you. Don't analyze anything.

Learn to switch from the perception of being 'in' your thoughts to withdrawing from them and becoming the detached totally passive observer of them. Get the feeling for the mental shift that occurs when doing so. Go within the thoughts and then withdraw to a more detached level. After a while of repeating this exercise you will notice that your thoughts become more isolated and that your inner mind starts taking a break.

Now, here is the next part of the exercise. As you watch your train of thought (images or just concepts), pick up one particular thought that you find interesting and "plunge into it" with full concentration. Remain focused on that thought to the exclusion of others for as long as possible. If other thoughts interfere, do not push them away, but watch them pass by as if they were foreign 'things' in your consciousness. At first you might only be able to do this for maybe 1 minute or less. Slowly increase it up to 7 minutes.
The last part of the exercise consists of blanking your thoughts out. This is done by deciding to concentrate on perceptually dark nothingness. If a thought comes in, imagine throwing white light on it. Imagine that the light dissolves that thought and that the screen then goes back to nothingness. Try to maintain that state up to 5 minutes. Start with 1-2 minutes.

Exercise 2: Movies
This exercise is the "going in and out of movies" exercise. All you need to do is to choose a good suspenseful motion picture and go watch it, preferably on a big screen.

First, allow yourself to get immersed in the captivating story. As you forget about your identity and start becoming 'within' the plot of the scene, suddenly withdraw your awareness from the big screen (you may for the first time want to look a bit around you in the dark in order to remember 'who you are') and become the observer of reality again. Slowly reconnect to the plot, but this time, allow yourself to remain with the awareness of being yourself watching, as a spectator (observer), the reality projected in the movie. Keep this dual awareness for a moment and then let go and plunge within the movie action, forgetting your real inner self again. And then repeat the exercise over and over.

Keep on doing this mental withdrawal and then plunging in again, until you get to know intimately the feeling of withdrawing from 'reality' (aware of inner self) and diving back in it (aware of outer reality). Easy isn't it? This simple exercise is very powerful.

As you get the knack of it try the same system as you go about your daily life. Use the same "mental trick" when engaged in your daily activities, especially the very ones that captivate you and are often associated with fear and stress. Soon, you will become aware at all times of being the 'observer' (inner self) observing the observed (reality and outer self) and become quite detached about it, enjoying your 'movie' in a much more relaxed and calm atmosphere.

Neti neti

The Dis-Identification Technique (DIT)

( The Neti, Neti Technique or the Who am I? Technique)

Who am I?

(Neti, Neti Technique: Dis-Identification Technique)

(One of the results of ‘Who am I’ is that it leads to self-management and thus to the ability to manage others).

This technique is very useful in restructuring your personality and even to attain realization. The technique can be used alone or along with other techniques like meditation. If it is thus combined with meditation it attains much power in transforming oneself. Be forewarned that the mere repetition of the following does not give you any results. You should understand and experience the truth yourself totally. However, even the cognitive/intellectual understanding of ‘Who am I’ gives one much insights, even though these may not be ever lasting. For the insights to last forever identify yourself with your true self. This can be done either by repeating this technique continuously or by contemplating on this twice a day.

For the first few days, read the whole mindfully and repeating twice emphatically the items in bold face. Later on you can if you are confident that you have understood the reasoning behind, you can simply avoid the text other than that in bold face and emphatically repeat the bold text twice silently. Stop to contemplate on the theme presented when *** (triple asterisks) are met. Revise it sentence by sentence and evaluating each. Move to the next theme after that only.

One of the immediate results of practice of this technique is the diminishing of worries due to the understanding that emotions and thoughts are temporary and changing.

Remember: do this technique in deep solitude and silence.

***

Can you see me? No. You can see my body only. Eyes cannot reach me

Can you hear me? No. You can hear my voice only. Ears cannot reach me

Can you touch me? No. You can touch my body/skin only. Skin cannot reach me

Can you smell me? No. You can smell my body only. Nose cannot reach me

Can you taste me? No. You can taste my body only. Tongue cannot reach me

Can you think about me? No. You can think about my body/behavior only.

Mind cannot reach me

What you sense is not me. But mine.

I am that which is beyond the senses and mind.

***

Can weapons hurt me? No. Only my body can be hurt.

Can fire burn me? No. Only my body can be burnt.

Can water drench me? No. Only my body can be drenched.

Can air cleave me? No. Only my body can be cleaved.

Can someone kill me? No. Only my body can be killed.

Can fire burn me? No. Only my body can be hurt.

What you try to destroy is not me. But mine.

I am beyond all that and not destructible.

***

If I adore my body with dress and ornaments do I change? Do I become someone else?

If I remove all my clothes or wore worn out clothes do I become someone else?

If I cut my legs or hands do I become someone else?

If I fit wooden legs or hands, golden teeth, wigs, a plastic heart, do I become someone else?

It I fit someone else’s heart, kidney, eye. , do I become someone else?

If I have some one else’s blood transfused in to my body, do I become someone else?

Then who am I ?

Whatever changes occur to my body, I do not change at all.

***

If I learn science or mathematics do I become someone else?

If I learn arts or literature do I become someone else?

If I have the best thoughts a person can have do I become someone else?

If I have the best opinions about any thing or anyone do I become someone else?

If I become angry, do I become someone else?

If I become happy, do I become someone else?

Whatever Changes occur to My Mind, I Do Not Change at all.

***

This house is mine. But it is not me.

This shirt is mine. But it is not me.

This body is mine. But it is not me.

Because even when the body is hurt or destroyed I am not.

This mind is mine. But it is not me. Because even when in deep sleep the real I is wide awake or else how do one know that he was asleep when he wakes up?

Or how could one wake up?

Or how could one hear someone calls him loudly or when one is shaken?.

I am the center of consciousness-the core of the core, the essence of essence.

My mind is its outer cover and a tool for existence,

My body is also outer and for existence.

My belongings are outside even my body.

These belongings of mine are not constant not absolute but changing.

This body of mine is not constant; it changes every moment.

This mind of mine is also not absolute. It changes, even disappears and then reappears.

These emotions of mine are not permanent or constant; they come and go.

These pains and pleasures of mine are not permanent either; they come and go like emotions.

These are all temporary; relative; changing.

But what doesn’t change, what is absolute is myself.

I am not my possessions.

I am Pure Consciousness.

***

If I identify with my body, mind, belongings, I am identifying with the changing, relative, transient and not with the constant, permanent, absolute which is my actual self.

If I identify with my body, mind, belongings, I feel that they are the real self and thus their change, destruction, loss affects me.

If I identify with my belongings/what is mine, my roles, my positions, powers, jobs, categories totally I am identifying with what is partial, duplicate, fake and not with my whole, original.

I may be a PM, General, CEO, judge, police officer, beurocrat, technocrat, artist, man of letters or so. But these are partial things, changing, temporary, artificial -before & and beyond these I am a human being, a being, pure consciousness.

To identify with the part means trouble, pain.

When something is seen, who is that which sees?

When something is heard, who is that which hears?

When something is tasted, who is that which tastes?

When something is smelt, who is that which smells?

When something is touched, who is that which touches?

When something is imagined/thought of, who is that which imagines/thinks?

It is not the senses that do these because even when the senses are not functioning one can see (eg. Electrical stimulation of the brain).

It is not my mind that does these (although mind is a tool) because even when fast asleep you can hear.

I am Pure Consciousness/Awareness.

(Aham Bothasmi)

I am not my desires, desires change.

I am not my attitudes, attitudes change

I am not my thoughts, thoughts change

I am not my emotions, emotions change

I am not the images I hold in my mind, images change

I am not the symbols I hold in my mind, symbols change

I am not the roles I play, the roles I play change

These are all categories/classifications; all these are just names-names of concepts and thus they are not the whole; what is not whole and unchanging cannot be I.

I am that which is unchangeable and permanent. If I look in to my past, I could understand that only the thoughts that I’ve changed but not I. Only my mind, my body changed. Not the real I.

I may be kind/cruel, brave/fearful but these are mere attitudes, thoughts, emotions.

Thoughts, images, symbols, archetypes, names/language are all of Space-Time.

So they arise & pass away. They’ve a birth and a death.

They change and are temporary. So that is not I.

Those who identify with their bodies get the power of their bodies

Those who identify with their thoughts/images get the power of thoughts/images

Those who identify with their roles get the power of the roles

Those who identify with their belongings get the power of the belongings

Those who identify with their emotions get the power of the emotions

Those who identify with their wealth get the power of the wealth

Those who identify with their knowledge get the power of the knowledge

Those who identify with their friends/people get the power of the friends/people

Those who identify with their true self get the power of all the above and much more

I am Pure Consciousness.

tendency of mind

This is tendency of human mind, first it sees itself at a height, and then as eagle it watches other individuals. We can see this tendency even in a child. When the mother says you are my best child. This pumps up something in the child, and this is what your mind is always looking. Even when you are physically mature, you mind still remains like a child. When you begin to have a relationship even though you know what your physical dimensions are you are expecting the complement that you are the best. And the boy even when he is the most feeble person, a foolish person he expects that I be called the most intelligent. Have you ever seen a foolish person?

The truth is that you cannot leave being judgmental unless you see for yourself what you really are. Our eyes are made to look the other. Our eyes are not meant to see itself. Can you see your eyes now? You need something, some surface like mirror, water in a pond or even eyes of a person where your reflection can be seen. Any smooth surface where your image reflects back. Only then you can see how your eyes look. The need of the other person is back. So we always want people around us. From whom our image can be reflected back. And that image should be you are the best, you are the most beautiful, you are strong etc. and these conditioning which others are giving to us and which we are giving to ourselves, this ends up in the definition that I am the best. Now once you have this feeling, this will create difficulties when you interact with other people. Why? Because you have proved to yourself that you are the best. And the other person’s ability for intelligence or beauty will always be looked with suspicion. This is natural trait with which the human beings behave. You need to be aware of how your mind functions, when it functions and what happens when it functions. Our mind will always begin with analysis of the person.

            Have you ever observed that we don’t interact with the actual person. We interact with the image of the person. The image which we have created about that person. And we are so boggled down with this image. That sometimes even when we meet the person you haven’t met the person because the image came in between, the image that you have created about that person. It is so difficult to be neutral and open. These are initial preparatory conditionings and from there we have already defined this person is good/bad. The moment you see any person what will you find, the body. But the moment you find the body of the person you start scanning and analysis of the person. This person doesn’t look very good, his eyes, background, behavior etc. and you come to the conclusions which are very much debatable. Then when you sit with a person you already have a definition. So it will be too hard to be able to relate to the person. So this creates a wall. And this wall and the image that you have created, the sum total of these two will stop you to accept the person as they are.

This has come up to each and every individual this knowledge is there, and so everyone tries to put up this mask of good, compassionate, accepted, beautiful, wise, kind, intelligent person even if they aren’t. So there is this double game that is happening. People are carrying their masks with them, and they hide their real personalities behind this walls and the person whom you meet too carries this mask. Your real face is hidden from you and from the person. Now when the mask meets the mask, the real meeting hasn’t happened. So when the real meeting hasn’t happened how a real can relationship can happen. One person seems today to you a great kind nice person, but within a span of time the same person looks like Hitler. One person looks to you like a bad person, and some situation comes and he helps you, and that was a surprising thing. And you say no no I was wrong. And what happens is all the time you are saying this only na that I was wrong. And then you begin to use your judgmental power more and more so that you don’t have to say I was wrong in judging this person. Because this hurts your ego too. You don’t want to be hurt ever, or proved wrong ever. You wish you want that whatever choices you make whatever decisions you make , whatever definitions you create are ultimately never wrong.

The pain which you feel due to your miscalculation hurts not only your heart but also your ego. So in next ever relationship which you are going to have, you raise your alarm more, you scan more and you become more cautious. You will save your wall but you will scan the person more deeply. And I don’t think this is a way to ever relate with any individual. The masks are there, the false images/faces are there and the real you is hidden somewhere behind these masks. And the real faces of your loved ones too is hidden somewhere. And whenever you find something which is not compatible with your heart you get surprised, heart -broken, how such person conduct this way, he was so nice/good. What happened? Were you wrong? Or was that person was always wrong and you couldn’t see that. Such instances put you on tenter hooks. And now you will be further more alert masking your true feelings even from yourself. And the life becomes a dreary a burden and not celebration. Life becomes bondage and dreary. And you aren’t able to relate to others. The truth is you aren’t able to relate to yourself. And this is the core of the problem. We haven’t accepted ourselves then how can we accept others. And when we like someone we fail to see the negative part of someone. And when we hate someone we wouldn’t be able to see good parts in them.  We can’t really see properly if our eyes are hazy. We have to clear up our eyes. And when we clear up our eyes only then you can see and accept as you are and then you are able to see and accept others as they are. The relationships can function well. And I say that even if your relationship doesn’t function well with others please be focused on yourself. And learn to have a successful relationship with your own mind. Be alert and focused. Never judge yourself. Those who judge others are actually judge themselves more. They get angry with themselves. You don’t like what you see in your mind. And your natural instinct stops you from seeing yourself. And you begin to see others and when you find the same faults which you too have, you get angry on them. Actually you are angry on yourself. But you aren’t ready to accept that you are angry on yourself. How can you live with yourself with this much anger which is pointed towards yourself? That’s the reason whenever we see any fallacy in people we don’t pardon them, we don’t forget them, we condemn them in public or in private. Actually we are condemning ourselves. Only if you could be compassionate with yourself and accept yourself as you are, this paves the way to accept people as they are.

A realized person cannot get angry on people when they mistakes because he knows that once he too was like that. And when he sees the mistakes and negativity of people he becomes more compassionate. He helps them to come out of this self condemning attitude. And the wonderful thing is that once you accept yourself you will be able to see all dark corners of your mind. And whichever dark zone your have found, it gets deleted. If you see anger awarefully a magic will happen. It will go. You can never be awarefull and angry, judgmental, sinful, lazy etc. sin is only a sign that the person is not aware. Because if you are awarefully there is no chance, no chance that the sinful act can happen. Every individual goes through this process of evolution. The speed can be very slow. It can be as slow as a snail or even steady like a rock or stone that it will not move on its own. But still every rock is changing, because change is happening every moment. Every plant, human being everything is changing. Now whether the change is happening for worse or for good but change is happening. If we give direction to this change, then it can transform your whole life. And if you are not aware then you are lost case. Love yourself only then you can love others. Love yourself as you are. Because whenever you accept what you are, the moment you bring this rays of awareness to your mind. You are able to dispel the dark zones of your mind. You are able to illumination to your mind. You are able to bring this divine light in yourself. Acceptance is the mantra. Loving yourself is the mantra. When you are able to do that then it will be so easy to accept others love others, because everyone you see will be your own reflection.

guru

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Shubham Bhavatu